I’m very sure I’m not the only one who undergoes self-inflicted mental tasking of the brain. This is because I have a way of evaluating issues, which gets me reflecting on a whole lot, so much so that I start having guilty feelings about being too hard on my mind and well being generally.
Down memory lane, while we were growing up, there was this thing that discouraged us from thinking too deep. We simply concluded with statements like “it is beyond human comprehension, don’t you ever bother your head about it” and so on and so forth. But I chose to do the opposite instead.
Just recently, I’ve had the cause to critically examine a particular trend in the past few days. And I wish to share those thoughts that have made my head heavy. I do hope to get responses and comments from those of you who take out time to read.
In my part of the world, people have consciously or unconsciously started acting in funny ways. For example, in choosing marriage partners, many folks now go to their spiritual leaders to see what the future holds for them both. Doesn’t that seem a bit like divination to you? I ask because I am baffled.
Already happening presently, even across ethnic, religious and social divides; this practice which was known to be widely practiced among the hyper-religious and overtly spiritual, is now found with the so-called ‘free-thinkers and “unbelievers” too. I have seen people who decided to break up with their partners because their Pastor said “their stars don’t match”. They gave up love because someone heard from God for them, possibly because their ears were too filled with sin that they couldn’t hear from Him directly-whatever “matching stars” mean.
“Matching stars” as it is popularly referred to, is translated as “checking” in my local language. Now gradually assuming a more deliberate pose these days, the “checkers” are given the authority to pick and choose potential spouses. They even do the sorting and arranging, peddling different tales about one, just to favour the other, who in most cases, are their clients-all in the name of “one being better than the other ”.
Last year, it happened to a close acquaintance. He was seeing an industrious young woman before different revelations started saying she was possessed by marine spirits and stuff. The guy left her and started seeing someone else on the orders of his Pastor. The funny thing is that even the person that introduced this young man to the Pastor, later complained about the new fiancee. In his own words; “she is downright lazy, she lacks the industry of the other marine lady!”
Ridiculous if you ask me!
Now you see, I’m not saying it’s not right to seek the face of God as we put it, I am simply saying we should not base everything on spirituality. Some people have lost the ability to seek God by themselves, and now shamelessly base everything on human beings like them, whom they see as God’s sole representatives. But they have actually forgotten that they themselves God’s representatives.
We end up forgetting that apart from being a child of God, there are other personal characteristics to look out for. There is the individuality. And who says there is a perfect person anywhere in the first place?
I believe in God, I am a Pastor myself but I do not believe you that you should hand over your life to someone because you believe he can talk to God for you. What exactly is wrong with your own mouth that has made it impossible to talk to God yourself? I have this funny feeling that most of the men we run to, do have their own biases and may just deliver their verdicts based on those biases.
Some of us have passed love over, on the basis of “checking”; trying to see if “stars match” or if he or she is the “will of God”. I only pray some folks will not misunderstand my position or see me as being carnally-minded.
So let’s talk, what do you actually think of this controversial issue?
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